Living a simple life: D is for Dressing

D is for Dressing

This post is part of the 2017 A-Z Challenge. Woot!

When I first planned out what I was going to write for each letter, D was originally for depression. I don’t really want to define myself by depression though. I’m moving forward into a calmer, happier future – not hanging on to the past.

Then I was going to write about dogs. I really love dogs. Dogs are AWESOME. Sadly, I have never had a dog. My partner has, and I get to play with an office dog three times a week. But, dogs have not been a significant part of my life thus far — though I hope they will be in the future.

So now I am going to talk about ‘dressing‘ or ‘dresses’ or ‘clothes’ (but clothes doesn’t start with a D).

My friend wrote a post about some of the perils of trying to dress yourself, which is interesting and relevant and says many things I agree with.

I have a lot of anxiety around clothes, as perhaps do many people. As a kid, I wore only second-hand clothes – cast-offs from other children a bit older than me. As such, I never really had a style, nor did I develop one.

When I got to university, I went clothes shopping with a student loan burning a hole in my back pocket. I bought my first ever ‘outfit’. I do not remember what it was. I did not really understand clothes, myself, or style.

It didn’t help that I viewed myself as, well, unattractive. Not in a particularly self-hating way, but I had bad acne and couldn’t really see any way that a particular style of dressing would make me NOT have bad acne.
So I wore baggy jumpers, jeans, walking boots. I opted for practical over pretty. That became my ‘style’, by default really.

But… every now and then I bought something. A short plaid skirt. A purple waistcoat. A tight, chinese-style dress. Clothes I bought and then… just never wore.

But I gradually realised that… I actually liked clothes.

I have a Pinterest board entirely filled with clothes.

There is clearly a style that I like. Unfortunately for me, it’s also clearly an expensive style. I like intricate patterns, colours (especially purple), high quality materials, iridescence. I have a thing about texture — I really kind of hate polyester. I like silk, satin, velvet, breezy cotton.

In short, I am secretly a clothes snob.

What does this have to do with living a simple life?

I guess it’s about paying attention to the details. I tend to just throw on whatever clothes I have. I usually take the easy option of jeans, t-shirt, jumper. But with a bit of thought, a bit of time (and maybe a bit of money) I could start dressing in a more meaningful way.

 

27 thoughts on “Living a simple life: D is for Dressing”

  1. Visiting from A to Z. It seems a pity not to wear the items you have bought and obviously like. I hope you can work them into your repertoire. I too like dressing very simply for comfort but I often choose bright colours.

    1. Practical is definitely a top concern, thanks to the large amount of walking I do. I always need to be dressed for the weather! I do think I could do more than I do currently though 🙂

      Thanks for visiting!

  2. I’ve done that same thing, bought clothes I thought I’d love then never wore. When I’d try them on, the clothes made me feel that I’d attract too much attention. I often prefer jeans and fitted t-shirts. It’s great that you recognize your style. Maybe you and I could sneak in one new or different article of clothing with the jeans. . .

    Missives From Missouri

    1. I think that is the way to start, maybe stick with jeans but add a pretty, colourful top instead of a t-shirt!

      I am glad I’m not the only one that has bought clothes and never worn them 🙂

      Thanks for visiting.

  3. Pinterest is such a great inspiration for getting ideas for clothes. I hope that you are able to find some clothes that fit your style that you enjoy wearing. Sounds like you have a great eye for a fun and unique style!

  4. I can sympathize with growing up without learning anything about dressing! I’ve just accepted that “tomboy” really is my style, and my need to be comfortable beats out pretty nearly anything else with clothes. Jeans and tees it is.

    But there is a part of me that loves a really pretty dress, even though I won’t wear one.

    1. Practical (and comfortable) is definitely top of the list, but I do wonder if there is a way to manage that and also being ‘pretty’!

      Thanks so much for visiting 🙂

    1. It’s true! One of those things that always seems to be in flux 🙂

      I think ‘cheap’ tops my list rather than comfy… I think comfy and pretty might need to be reprioritised!

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  5. It seems a shame not to wear the pretty outfits you got, maybe wear them for a special occasion? I too dislike polyester/manmade. My first choice is always cotton followed by silk. I’m okay with acrylic jumpers etc, only winter wear. here from the A-Z and enjoyed your post.

    Nilanjana

    1. I have a lot of anxiety around ‘drawing attention’ so dressing up for special occasion is sometimes fraught! But I do think I can start making small changes.

      Cotton is so much nicer.

      Thanks for visiting!

  6. Maybe you can splurge on one key piece and work a lot of outfits around it?
    I’m a lot more conscious of the feel of the material than anything else. The touch test comes first, then color. Cut is actually last.
    I don’t wear clothes particularly well and I have very little money, so I choose the things I like to be in, not so much what is stylish.

    Interesting “D” read!

    1. Yes, feel is very important! I think I’ve oped for cheap clothes before, and they can be very uncomfortable.

      Thanks for visiting 🙂

  7. I love my jeans and t-shirt too. But over time I have developed a sense of style. I know the patterns, colours and types that suit me. But comfort shall never be compromised. 🙂

  8. I too buy clothes that I love but do not wear, and then I keep them in my closet making excuses for the mythical one day reason that I am going to wear them. I love bright colours and splashy patterns but I almost never wear them in real life. 🙁 One day.

    Great post.

    Melissa @ My Creatively Random Life

  9. I love dogs! You should get one when you can.

    When I was younger, I cared about clothes. Now, not so much. I’m not sure I even have a style. (Is that as bad as it sounds?)

    Yes, I’ve bought clothes and then never wore them. More times than I’d care to admit.

    1. No, you don’t have to have a style! I think it’s one of those things, you either care about it or you don’t and neither way is better 🙂 We all have a finite amount of time/money/space!

  10. I’ve always believed in having quality clothes over quantity was better! As far as style…I’m still trying to figure that out myself. I guess I fall into the classic style – styles that never go out of style and are versatile. Nice Post! Heidi at, Decibel Memos (Perspectives absent of sound)

  11. You should save up and get the clothes you like. I did the switch away from jeans a few years ago, and I found that wearing what I really like (full skirts) actually lasts longer than jeans, because they were better quality items and didn’t wear out at the knees (and I was probably taking better care of them, watching what I ran into and brushed against instead of dashing through life, uncaring).

    And dressing can actually have a positive impact on depression. If you wear clothes you like and find pretty, it makes you feel better about yourself. Your mood gets a boost that goes on, all day long, as you enjoy the texture and color and feel of your garments.

  12. I’ve been a jeans and t-shirt person, too. The last five years or so, I’ve prettied it up a bit with bohemian tunics, scarves, and bright colors.

    Depends on the mood whether I stay in jeans/t-shirt, jeans/sweatshirt or go for the gusto and get in some color.

    I’ve also discovered that so many people are worried about how they look that they don’t really notice me! I’m so okay with that!

  13. Hello, fellow A-to-Zer! I liked your article, and I totally relate. I absolutely love clothes. I sometimes throw on a pair of jeans, but more often I dress fairly elaborately. My winter wear involves a practically floor-length jacket, a hat with feathers, and a black opera cloak. People stare, but it is usually friendly-staring; old people smile at me, possibly because I look proper, or possibly because I am smiling at them. It makes me happy to look fancy, and that sometimes spills over into the people around me. So — hurrah for clothes! And, be as fancy as you want to be!

    1. …Oh, and if money is a little tight, thrift shops are your friend– in my experience, the stodgier and dustier the better, as they may have almost anything, and they probably won’t charge as much as, say, your average hipster-style curated thrift shop. Most of my favorite things cost me very little money, because they are from thrift shops. And if you can splurge on one thing, maybe it should be a jacket, something you can wear every day, at least for the autumn and winter months (if the weather where you are is like the weather where I am, anyway…). It really does make an enormous difference, to wear something you love being seen in.

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